The Art of Being

I saw this cartoon from the Mr. Boffo creator Joe Martin.
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I thought to myself, well, it is what it is, but you get to choose who you’re going to be going forward.

And ‘Being’ is what it’s all about isn’t it? It is ‘who are you being’ that determines your life.

‘Being’ contains a set of beliefs. Who you are, is a set of beliefs. And for those of you that follow Abraham-Hick’s material know, beliefs are just thoughts you keep thinking.

What inspired me to write this today was an article that caught my attention in the Chicago Sun Times as I was waiting for my buddy Rob at a distinguished drinking establishment. Distinguished sounds good, huh? It wasn’t that distinguished.

The article’s headline caught my attention ‘
Middle-age virgins: Look overseas’. Was it so hard to find unattached women in the United States that a male virgin had to extend his look overseas? I had to check this out. Remember I do this so you don’t have to.

This quote from the article tells you all you need to know. ‘Says Mark, "I'm the type of man who believes that sex should be the ultimate expression of love between a man and a woman, and as such, should be one of the later steps in a relationship, not the first. "I'm 45 years old, and I've spent many, many a lonely year because of this belief. I've never had a problem catching a girl's eye, but women don't want to take the time to get to know me. With most women I've ever met or known, if things don't progress toward sex in a rapid fashion, they quickly lose interest and move on.”

Most guys I know right now are thinking, ‘say what?’ But there are many people in society that would find this noble. This belief goes back to the old Christian belief system that was successfully installed in some.

Let’s look at just the two things here in what may possibly support this belief, nobility and Christian ideals. So two things off the top: 1) Some people find it noble which would feed your ego that other people appreciate your ideals. 2) Is a fear based system that was taught.

Even though beliefs are just thoughts we keep thinking, we can see there is usually a system of thoughts that support the belief.

There’s a point where one needs to look at the results they’re attracting in their lives and say to themselves ‘how’s that working out for me’? If it isn’t working out, who are you being?

Where Are You Going?
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Are you focused on what you want going forward? Do you feel or sense your beliefs and see if they fit where you’re going. If your beliefs don’t serve you, do you change them? Your beliefs are no more than things that serve you on your journey. Beliefs must be used carefully as they have real power. If it’s 95° outside, do you wear your down coat because you’ve always worn that coat and dammit I’m not going to change now for some silly reason such as heat. I’m guessing not, but beliefs can have the same effect.

I remember reading
Vernon Howard’s book Psycho-Pictography back in 1992. The book was about using pictures in your mind to help you see the real world. Mr Howard looked at beliefs as weights in a backpack you wear throughout life. You can just picture how those weights can really hold you back on your journey. The idea was to look at your beliefs and see how that belief was of benefit to you. If it wasn’t anymore, you toss it out of your backpack.

Let’s look at a belief someone may have that holds them back. Say you are a tough guy or chick (in this vernacular). Maybe in High School, you had a situation you handled where you took on someone tough and lo and behold you won out. From then on you were considered tough. Holding up this end of your belief may have benefitted you then. It kept other people from bothering you, etc. I know some people today who still carry this belief forward in some way. But does it serve them. It may have worked in the teenage years, but knowing what you know now, does it serve you. Think about running everything you do through this filter. Heck, it’s just an automatic program. People are usually not aware of the beliefs they have as they’ve become part of who they are.

As you put your intentions going forward in life and don’t see the results you’re looking for, you may want to ask yourself, who am I being? Am I being the person that I am targeting and intending to be? Do I have limiting beliefs that are holding me back? Open your backpack and check it out.

Who you are Being is the sum total of your vibration. Who you are Being on any one subject is the singular vibration plus the background noise of who you are Being.

Once you’re clear on who you’re being, the faster the larger part of you can line up the circumstances for success in that endeavor.

One method of figuring out who you want to be is to put your focus on what you want. As you do this, notice the thoughts that may be canceling out the wanted. Always keep in mind there is no past, there is only this moment. What was true in the past for you doesn’t have to be true for you now and going forward. Every moment is a fresh creation. Say there is a certain endeavor that you are undertaking. If your mind is giving you contradictive thought patterns in relation to your endeavor, you can think to your self, ‘who am I being’. I know I get to control who I am. Just this break in your thinking, can over time with practice, get your mind into a pattern of creating who you really want to be.

So it is what it is. How do you want to create going forward? Who do you want to be?

For discussion: Does anyone have a past belief they’ve had that they tossed out that they would like to share. What have you tossed out of your backpack?