NPS or the Need to Please Syndrome

by Denise Van Vilet

Taken from Embrace the BITCH Within

I’m the first to admit I have NPS. It’s a learned behavior. It's a deep seated learned and passed down behavior from mother to daughter. For some reason women suffer from NPS more so than the guys. However, from my own observation, I do know several gay men that suffer from this as well. We are looking for approval from outside ourselves.

I believe part of Embracing the BITCH, BITCH is an acronym for Being In Total Connection (with) Herself, is coming to terms with this. When we look to someone else to make us feel good or worthy or important or loved, we are actually giving our power away. “I will make you proud of me, and then I will be happy, then I will feel loved.”

Getting dressed for school one day, Mom shows her disapproval by saying, “What will the neighbors think if they see you wearing that?” I could be wearing something that makes me feel good in the moment and Mom is all worried about what the neighbors would think? I go and change to make Mom happy. I want her to love me. We all have experienced something like this right? We learn that this is how we love.
We learn conditional love by giving away our power away and making someone else happy. We make someone happy, we receive love. We make them disappointed with us, they withhold their love. As women we carry this behavior on in every aspect of our lives. We choose careers based on what others want. Our relationships are based on the idea that a man or our knight in shining armor comes and he is going to carry us away and we will live happily ever after. Our Knight will MAKE us happy. And if he doesn't make us happy, we withhold our love for him. Do we as women know how to love unconditionally? We are taught from a very early age ONLY conditional love. So how do we get over NPS?

One of the hardest things for a woman to do is love herself unconditionally. However this is the cure for NPS. We MUST love from the inside out. We are so brain washed that we must look, behave, and buy certain things in order for others to love us. But deep inside, from the hundreds of women I've talked to, more than 90% do not even know how to love themselves. They are not worthy of such love. With this kind of thinking leaves us in a 'victim' mentality. This is a highly powerless state! In order to take our power back and to learn to love unconditionally, we MUST start from the inside out.

This has nothing to do with our outer shell. Some of us might not like our hair, body type, size or what have you. This type of love goes much deeper than that. Meditation and quieting our mind and getting into our bodies is a start to finding that essence within to start loving who we REALLY are. We are not our thoughts. We are not our outer shell. We are not our hair color. We are not our body type or size. We are Yin energy. Are are an extension of Source. We are Spiritual Beings here for the physical experience. We are the creators of Humanity. We ARE love. When you feel that in your body, you will understand unconditional love. Then and only then will we understand how to love others unconditionally.


Stuff and Happiness

by Dan Doviddio

I was in Door County Wisconsin the week of July 4th. It’s my wife and I’s yearly ‘real’ vacation. I call it our real vacation because unlike our vacations where we travel to new destinations, we actually relax. You know, 9 to 10 hours of sleep a night. Hiking, biking, wine tastings, dining, plays and concerts. So we actually come back relaxed from our trip.

The best thing for me about a real vacation is being away from home. I like our home a lot. It’s very nice and comfortable. But your home is always screaming out for things to do. Its that little voice in your head (or that ‘Honey Do’ list) of things that need to be done. Things like, add mulch here, new plants there, fix the door latch, I mean, I can go on forever. So, you’re away from all that. You can’t feel a little guilty not doing things if you’re not there to do them, right. If you feel guilty because you’re away and not doing things around the house, well, I can’t help you there.

While I was in ‘the Door’ I re-visited and old site that I like to photograph. It’s a dilapidated farm that has been abandoned.

The thing is, there’s lots of stuff still there. Things at one time that were essential or made life nicer.

Like a Schwinn bike.

I remember as a kid wanting a Schwinn and getting a Montgomery Ward bike instead. But only because being a kid, I was careless and my Schwinn was stolen, hence, the Hawthorne as a replacement. But think about it, one time somebody was excited to have this bike shown above.

Or how about that new truck, all shiny and new. People are always excited about a new vehicle.
Front of truck copy
Of course, not this one anymore.

How about that new shed. A great place to store all those garden implements.

Or how about some new lawn furniture to sit outside and enjoy your favorite beverage.

It made me think how we want something in the hopes it will spur happiness. We see something we want and we can picture ourselves using the object of our desire in a happy way. Think about it, we don’t buy a new car thinking that it will depress us to drive it. Or a new book with the intention of being thoroughly disgusted as we read it. We in most circumstances have a positive intention about what we purchase.

Yet the things we purchase are only along for our ride through life. The life part is up to us. Being happy is our responsibility.

I say this because on a recent Sunday afternoon I was sitting in our screened in porch. It was a pretty pleasant day. My favorite background noise of summer insects and birds were present. I was having a nice glass of Syrah. Best of all, I was reading the new Lee Child book, 61 Hours.

I was basking! I felt great! For me, it doesn’t get any better than this. A great read, a great location, a great feeling. Summer is happening all over the place.

And I have nice stuff around me, but it’s just along for the ride. I dictate the feeling...and so do you.

Just think, one day all the stuff in the above picture will be junk. The chairs will break down, the lamp will deteriorate. But the stuff is just a prop in your life.

Later it started to rain. Another great feeling and sound!

Let’s face it, sometimes being happy takes a little work depending where you are on the emotional scale chart.

There’s a newer Abraham CD that has a way to work yourself into a better feeling place. Abraham talks about going through the alphabet and putting a good feeling word o each letter. For instance, A is Appreciate, B is Basking, C can be Comfort, D can be Divine. In other words look around where you are and go through the alphabet and use what you find with the letters.

Let’s look at the above picture on the porch. I really Appreciate having this porch and Enjoy summer. I’m Basking in the feeling of summer. The Comfort I feel is great inside the porch while it’s raining is Great. The wine is Divine (couldn’t help myself there). The Ease and Flow of a summer day is unparalleled. I’m Happy to read this novel. And so on until you feel it.

Did I say how much I like summer?

I love the mystery genre of books. Below I posted some of my recent and soon to be newest reads.


Clinging To Life

By Frank Dobner


This is a photo of a tree that I see every day on my walk in the woods. I have seen this tree hundreds of times and I have actually watched it grow over the last 20 years. This tree is living at the edge of a ravine and flanked by a pedestrian foot bridge to boot. Its roots have wrapped themselves around 180° to draw water, nourishment and support from the receding ravine slope.

Unconsciously, every time I see this tree, I am met with the same feeling. It appears to be clinging to life with “both hands.” It is hard to imagine how a consciousness like this tree, could have “figured out” how to direct its roots to the only place that could support its need for water, nutrients and physical support. I guess that is the way Intelligence works.

The Universe works on pure economy. There is nothing wasted. By its very existence, the Universe needs this tree and is going to see to it that it remains in this world for now. And this decision has been made apparently for reasons that have nothing to do with me (what I can see, feel, hear, taste, or touch).

In Aldous Huxley’s book “The Doors of Perception” he states that “Man’s highly developed color sense is a biological luxury – inestimably precious to him as an intellectual and spiritual being, but unnecessary to his survival as an animal.” For a guy like me that has had the universe defined for me in strict Newtonian and Cartesian rules, color would appear to have no place here. Yet, here it is…..color clinging to life for no apparent reason.

Have you ever wondered how vain it is to believe that we mentally need to participate in the existence of things? At the same time, if nature wastes nothing, then any thought that you do have is also not wasted. So, in fact, the existence of this precarious tree and my thought about it is very relevant. Huxley writes “All that the conscious ego can do is to formulate wishes, which are then carried out by forces which it controls very little and understands not at all” and “as man proposes, God disposes.”

So exactly what is life then?

Usually blissful situations in my experience have been associated with a separation from my body or of a sensation of being de-individualized. I feel lighter and sort of non-localized when I am experiencing pleasure or peace. On the other hand, painful situations have often been associated with attachment to the body and taking on a dense and immovable sensation. Yet clinging to life often means holding on to our physical body just as long as we possibly can. What’s wrong with this picture?

I guess you can define life in either way…..form (your body, the world you see) or experience (pain, peace, joy, war, happiness). I don’t think either way is wrong. The question might better be asked, which way do you want to define life? Do you want to define it in such a way that you feel better or worse? I choose feeling better. Inherited Christian practice is often stuck on sacrifice, duty and hard work as the only means to get to heaven. Even as an 8 year old in Catholic school, I knew for a fact that this was not what was intended.

It is peace, bliss and unity that define life. Feeling good is what it is all about. There is not and never was anything called “sacrifice.” That is plain bullshit that we have inherited from extinct religious and cultural traditions. Being connected to physical form is often a move in the opposite direction of feeling good. Using alcohol, tobacco and drugs as a move towards transcendence means just a return trip when it wears off. Yet, we will still down that third cocktail to get that feeling again. Another round trip!

So maybe this is what life is….it is a way of releasing yourself from continuous death and birth of form in your life. When you feel pain, and you can identify it and release it you have “re-gained” your life. Here are some things that I actually do to accomplish this :

1. “Inventory” Your Feelings – How are you feeling right now? Maybe you have butterflies in your stomach because of an upcoming presentation to a big client. Or perhaps you are secretly steaming about the fact that your teenage son follows none of your rules. Or maybe you are anxious for no reason at all….and not knowing that is causing you even more anxiety.
2. State Your Underlying Thoughts – your feelings are basically “your thoughts meeting your body.” Think about it. When you have butterflies in your stomach, there is a thought that is creating that. Maybe you are imagining that you will look like an idiot if you make a mistake or maybe you are imagining that you will lose a big account because your trip over a few words. This is only your imagination. Imagination causes a lot of pain because it loads “software’ on your “hardware” (your body) and you get bad feelings. When you have bad thoughts, you simply feel bad. Learn to find out what the thought is that is creating it. If you do not know what the thought is, then the thought is “that you just don’t know what the thought is” and start from there.
3. “Ask 5 Why’s” - this is the big step. In this step you will find out where you are hiding out, right now, in your life. Ask a series of “why” questions around what you are experiencing. Just this morning, I asked myself a series of questions as to why do I want my son to make his own mistakes, rather than me just fixing them for him. I was feeling bad that I was creating unnecessary pain for him. So I asked, “why do I need him to make his own mistakes?” After every level of answer, I would ask the question and probe again. Ultimately the answer I learned was that I really wanted my son to learn that he is his own best teacher, not me. I felt a great relief in this. All along, I thought was just being a jackass. But my feeling is not doing me or anyone any good. It is just more useless sacrificial bullshit.

So your life is about purifiying your experience at every moment. If you do get to “graduate” to the next level of existence, I am thinking that you will be rewarded for this.


Welcome to the World You Created - The Pause that Refreshes

by Dan Doviddio

A friend of mine had lent me a movie, ‘Closer than Close’. Quoting from the movies website: Closer than Close is spiritual cinema at its finest -- a documentary that investigates the spiritual search; the search for the essential questions of human life: is there an eternal part of ourselves? what has lasting meaning? where do we find certainty? Rather than philosophical discussion, it explores the possibility of living a life devoted to a search for answers, and the radical possibility that answers exist, closer than we can imagine, within our selves.

At the time I was having these uneasy ego rumblings that I was ignoring. Watching the movie, I seemed to have picked up ego rumblings from the people in the movie itself. One man says, ‘since five years old, I’ve had this uneasy feeling inside’. I identified with him. I said to myself at that moment ‘my ego’s got to go’.

I had acknowledged recently that my ego’s need for all it’s perceived issues had to be be taken out. Not just dealt with, taken out, mugged in a back alley, serious action, to put my ego in it’s place. So at that moment in the movie, I took inspired action. I decided to cognitively declare to my ego ‘
I give up, I surrender, I let that go’ of any issue that my ego brought up. And it actually worked. Instant relief.

I’ve been working on this for months now before I decided to write about it.

The Pause That Refereshes
The Pause

So what I found was your mind can get instant relief from deciding to reduce the ego’s need to always bringing up issues. Sure a lot of it is just mind/ego combo sifting through contrast. But a lot of time it’s an ongoing program running underneath whatever you happen to be doing. As it surfaces, there are times you just want to silence it.

Insert in Your Mind a New Program
What I did was, I decided to insert a new program in my mind. In my case, this meant sitting down and letting the ego know that I was going to help it be more effective in our everyday life. Notice I don’t threaten the ego. I am making it a partner in helping me. I said, meant and felt the words ‘I give up, I surrender, I let you go’. This part needs to be set with feeling. This is the set point to make the words ‘I give up, I surrender, I let you go’ have real meaning when they are spoken. Program inserted.

As ego generated thoughts came through, I said my new mantra. Instant relief.

I did find that I became more aware of my thoughts when first using ‘The Power Pause’. I used it a lot to dissipate whatever thoughts not wanted or were against certain goals I had set.

When meditating one morning, I realized that one still must demand to feel good. Paying too much attention to the thoughts not wanted, sometimes brought more thoughts after while. So you still need to have a point that you always want to feel good. And this is where most of your work needs to be focused.

Some Tools
Still getting rid of these background running programs are important. If you can sit down and take the time and really discipline yourself Katie Bryon’s ‘The Work’ can be real useful.

Another good tool is in Esther and Jerry Hicks ‘Ask and it is Given’ process #22: Moving up the Emotional Scale. The point of moving up the emotional scale is to change your reality by improving your feelings, not by taking action.

For me, I also use Ho”oponopono. I can’t emphasize enough how this simple program works. It is very effective and works effortlessly.

Saying these four phrases have meaning to your conscious / sub-conscious being.
  • I Love You
  • I’m Sorry
  • Please Forgive Me
  • Thank You

The key is to use these phrases as needed. According to Rev. James Vinson Wingo, DD , it is not good to say the phrases over and over. Like a general anti-biotic, you will not hit the root cause of the issue you need to address.

It is best to find what the true cause is of what you are feeling. If there is an issue that you keep responding to and keep getting the sanme results, it might be good to take some quiet time, maybe during meditation and seeing where this issue comes from. Then ‘pono it (using the four phrases).

The Power Point and Taking Mental Action
I came up with my own process during a run in December. I found when I neutralized the not wanted thought, there is a pause. The pause of neutrality. This is a personal power point. At this moment you can take charge of the thought.

The Power Inquisition: You can ask ‘where did that come from’. I was putting off a project I needed to do. Nothing that bad either. Even when I do start the project, I know I’ll enjoy doing it. I could just feel a little dread. You know the feeling, that procrastination feeling. I did ‘The Pause’. Then I inquired why did I procrastinate. I found an old program from my childhood. My father was big in having us kids do chores before we could go play. I mean a lot of chores, or so it seemed at the time. There was some resentment still built up from that. So I let that go too. Once you realize why you do something, it can be easier to move on.

The Power Point Punch: This is when you’ve done the Power Point and want to take advantage of the pause and turn it around. This is where you pivot from the thought that isn’t wanted and turn it around into what you do want. Say you have a sales call coming up. You’re feeling trepidation and a little unsure of yourself. You insert the Power Pause statement to stop the current program you’re running. The old program is temporarily in a neutral state. Now you pivot, you realize that you were feeling trepidation based on a program running. Now in the neutral mode, you pivot, say to yourself ‘I’m a great salesperson, who wouldn’t want to see me. I’m bringing this buyer something they really want. They may not know it yet, but they will’.

If you’ve done your other work, the work of feeling good (the most important work), you will turn this moment around due to the fact you remember what good feels like. That feeling can be re-generated anytime you ‘choose’.

Why does this all work? Physically speaking, you’re building new neural pathways. As you create a thought, building new neural pathways to a response or feeling is taking charge of yourself. When you create new habits of thinking, the neural pathway gets stronger. To see a great video of how someone cured themselves using their mind.

See parts 2 through 5 here

As you see, all of the above here is conscious work. I remember watching a travel show on our local public TV station. The program is Globe Trekkers. They were doing a Mexico travel program. They did a small piece on a group of Indians that practiced the Nagual. These Indians call most of the people of the world sleepwalkers. If you want to experience life in all it’s beautiful wonder, You gotta wake up.


The 12 Phases of Consciousness

by Colin Gonsalves

I recently read the book "The Superbeings" by John Randolph Price. One of the chapters in the book describes the 12 Phases of Consciousness which is a result of Price’s research after conducting interviews with people at different levels of consciousness. This chapter intrigued me because I saw the description of my own journey in the first four phases. It felt similar to looking at a map you see in the malls with the “You Are Here” marker. The book helped me calibrate myself on this “scale” to figure out where I was on my consciousness journey and provided a glimpse into what it is like to experience higher phases and what I can do to move to the next phase. The description of the 12 phases can be seen here. Take a look and see if you identify with any of the phases. For example here’s a quote for what is feels to be in phase 5.

“In Phase Five, an individual's consciousness is directed toward the good at least fifty-one percent of the time, i.e. the positive thoughts and feelings outweigh the negative. Now the clouds seem to part and more sunshine than ever comes into your life. There is more harmony, money is more plentiful, those old aches and pains are not as frequent, and things seem to be "right" in your life.”

The above quote inspired me to be more mindful of the thoughts I attract and to practice focusing on positive things and to establish a routine when I get up in the morning and go to bed at night. This way I get the day started on a positive note and end the day on a positive note as well. I’ll share my routine with you in an upcoming article.

Note: You can find The 12 Phases of Consciousness here

We Are All Just Victims of Victims – Or Are We?

by Bill Hartford

I believe that most people go through their lives playing out what their parents taught them. They unconsciously relive what their parents told them to think about themselves. For instance, how many times did you hear growing up that you were not good enough, smart enough, tall enough, etc to do something? And now as an adult you say these things to yourself or to the people around you. However, as I've matured I now realize that our parents were just victims of their parents. They could not have taught us anything that they did not already know. If your mother or father did not know how to love themselves unconditionally they couldn’t possibly have taught you how to love yourself. However, we are all adults now and we make our own decisions. And, it is time to choose not to be a victim. By blaming our parents for our current problems, we are in a sense, giving our power away to them. We can choose to live in this moment and decide which thoughts and beliefs we will now believe in. Once you get to the point where you consciously realize this, you will then understand that our parents did not do anything to us. They did their loving best with that they knew at the time.

All experiences that you have had up to this point in your life all started with the thoughts and words that you used a decade ago, last year, last month or even earlier today. Isn’t it time to take control of the 30,000 thoughts you have each day? The experts say that we have the same 30,000 thoughts each day and that 70% of them are negative. What is important now is what you choose to say, think and believe in this moment and going forward. How do you claim your god given power back and stop blaming others? How do you break the cycle of victimhood?

I believe that one of the best ways to start breaking the cycle of victimhood is through practicing Ho’oponopono. Ho’oponopono is an ancient memory clearing technique. It was practiced for decades on the islands of Hawaii. Ho’oponopono also says that we are all 100% responsible for everything that happens to us and that no person, place or thing has any control over what or how we choose to think. In order to find that peace, harmony, love, gratitude and bliss in our lives we need to first have it in our thoughts. Ho’oponopono utilizes one of the easiest ways for you to find that bliss for yourself and to literally create miracles. I would highly recommend searching out information on the practice. I will also be sharing more about it in future articles.

Does this sound like you; do you say things like this to yourself? - “People are out to get me, Life just isn’t fair, How do you expect me to love myself, I’m just not good enough”.

Or does this sound like you? “I love you, I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you”. You just need to say these statements to yourself silently. Or, when was the last time you went by a mirror, stopped, looked at yourself in the eyes and said, “I Love you, Thank you”. It may sound a little strange, or a little like Stuart Smalley from SNL. But seriously, when was the last time you did that for yourself?

My guess is that you are like most and tend to lean towards the latter sentences. These negative thoughts are not wrong because I also believe that the Divine creates everyone just perfect. However, which statements do you think are more empowering and give you the ability to bring joy, peace, love and happiness to your life?

When would now be the right time to start utilizing the four sentences of Ho’oponopono? I think the sooner you do, the faster miracles will appear in your life. And, the sooner you will start to claim back your god given power back and stop blaming your parents – because they were just victims of victims of victims, etc. Break the cycle!


The Three Levels of Consciousness

by Denise Van Vilet

Meditation is such a wonderful thing. I had been asking myself, “What’s missing?” There is always a new perspective and new understanding. There was something more that I could feel. I could just barely put my finger on it. Something that was obvious but still hidden to me.

While my husband and I were in Ireland in April of 2010, we were on a spiritual quest. We visited some of the sacred sites throughout Ireland. I had a very personal experience while at one of the sites. I’ll save the details for a later date, but 3 days after that experience I had a vision during a meditation of the totem. I want to say that they are my animal spirit guides, but they tell me that they are all of our animal spirit guides. I told my daughter, the artist of the family, what I saw and she drew the picture for me. The detail she put in was amazing.

Totem_Colored copy 4-5

Well I did not know what to do with this picture. So I asked. Well 3 days later, again while in meditation, all of a sudden I had to start writing. All this ‘stuff’ started coming to me. I like to believe the animals were guiding me.

They told me what they represent. They are the three levels of consciousness. The Wolf is our conscious self. This is where the ego resides. He tells me not to be afraid of him or the ego. He is our cunning and planning self. He thinks fast on his feet, always looking ahead and preparing for the future. He also tells me that most are a slave to him. He has become the ruler of the 3. But he wants to be trained and used for the highest good. So ask your inner Wolf; are you a slave to your Wolf, or do you train your conscious self to serve your highest good?

Then we have the Rat. The Rat represents our subconscious self. It is blind and believes EVERYTHING the Wolf tells it. It is also connected to every Rat on the planet. The Rat only knows right NOW. You cannot talk to the Rat about the past or future. The Rat is what Carl Jung refers to as the Collective Unconscious or what Eckhart Tolle calls the Pain Body. This is where we are all connected.

Next is the Hawk. The Hawk has only one eye; the third eye. It represents our Higher Self. The message from the Hawk is to not limit ourselves. It’s like we’ve become so afraid to soar. Take flight and be open to the possibilities.

It all became very clear to me! It’s amazing what the Universe will reveal to you when you ask and then open yourself up for the answers. It’s the secret of three! Because this whole process started in Ireland with my personal experience, I decided to look up the word secret in Irish or Gaelic. The word for Secret is Runda with an accent on the u. This is where Rúnda 3™ was born!

I developed a class called Rúnda 3™ teaching the secrets of the 3 levels of consciousness. Rúnda 3™ is a complete system for those in the healing arts to heal themselves and others, and to connect with their individual psychic gifts. When we learn how to use the 3 levels and how they communicate, we open ourselves up to healing ourselves and others and opening up our individual intuitive/psychic gifts.

By taking a Rúnda 3™ class, you will learn:

  • What the Rúnda 3 symbol means
    • The 3 parts of Consciousness
    • The 3 parts of the Body
    • How these are connected and how to use them
    • The Energy Bodies and how they communicate
    • The 3 part Breath
    • How Runda 3™ is very different and beyond the teachings of the Law of Attraction
    • The 3 step formula to manifestation
    • How learning these steps leads to Psychic Development
    • The 3 states of awareness (brain waves)
    • The 3 steps of protection

Who would benefit from taking this class?
  • All Lightworkers
    • Reiki Practitioners (All Levels)
    • Energy Healers of all backgrounds
    • Anyone in the Healing Arts (i.e. massage therapists)
    • Anyone interested in healing themselves and loved ones
    • Students of the Law of Attraction and find they have hit a wall

You can reach Denise here


Dark Energy, Dark Matter And The Larger Part Of Ourselves

by Robert Graff

It is only very recently that scientists have discovered dark energy and dark matter. There have been observations about the universe that can become more clearly understood only if these theoretical forces truly exist. One can experience the effects of the wind without seeing it, and this is much like the evidence for the existence of dark energy and dark matter. Its existence cannot be ignored or denied.

Dark energy is a way to explain how the expansion of the universe can be accelerating. It accounts for 74% of the energy-mass of the universe. Dark matter is a way to explain gravitational effects on both light and matter, bending light and affecting the path of travel of matter. Dark matter accounts for about 23% of the energy-mass of the universe. What we can see as observable matter only accounts for 3 to 4% of the energy-mass of the universe!

I see an analogy here which can be applied to our physical beings. The non-physical, larger part of ourselves is analogous to the dark energy and dark matter of the universe. The larger part (by far) of who we are is non-physical, but overwhelming evidence suggests that this larger part, (our inner-being, soul, god-force, higher-self, etc.) is more who we are than the flesh & bones we normally consider to be “us.”

Our entire physical bodies appear to be designed around being vibrational sensors. That is, we are universal probes, much like the space probes that NASA sends out to sense other worlds. Every one of our senses is a way to sense vibrational differences in energy. It would only make sense that what we sense mostly would be the effects of energy of which there is the most: dark energy and dark matter.

Our emotions are the interface, and a way to bridge these two aspects of ourselves. Paying attention to our emotions gives us access to energy and information that our classical physical senses cannot. Our emotions provide us with the overwhelming evidence that there is more to our existence than what we know as 'reality.' However, our emotions are more than just sensors, they are guides, lighting the way to joy, step by step. Pay attention to your emotions, and the bigger part of yourself and you will be in alignment with the most powerful forces in the Universe.

Welcome to the World You Created...Your Beliefs Effect Your World

by Dan Doviddio

This is the second part is about our belief system and how it is formulated.

What are beliefs?
A thought we think based on past observations. It is our opinion of any situation or thing. As an old saying goes, like assholes, everyone has them. But unlike assholes, according to Pam Ragland of each person has over five million opinions set by age 5. This represents 90% of your total thoughts or opinions you will have in a lifetime. Think about that, how we think about the world happened by age five. I mean at that age I liked oreo cookies and hated vegetables (I’m guessing a lot of you out there still like oreo cookies and secretly hate vegetables). Early age, you’re a sponge, soaking up information like crazy. Think about the judgements that came out of that age. You love to play and for the most part you do. But there is so much more you take in. Dad or mom being angry or depressed. People just living life the best they can.

On top of your parents belief system, there are societies belief system. Lets look at just few.
  • Work hard to succeed
  • Just the definition of success
  • Country first
  • Family first
  • My religion is best and then the subset within any given religion
  • Sex is bad
  • Sex is good

These are just a few, there are so many more.

Beliefs are not right or wrong. Just thoughts you have.

And think about it, how many of these beliefs are actually yours?

But then your ego got involved.

Your ego, which was never supposed to be more than your interpreter of the physical world, developed a sense where it takes what is seen, heard or smelled and compares it with a belief you have. Your opinion comes from that belief on any subject. Since your ego has a built in, don’t die program, it will protect this belief at all costs. Look at your beliefs as just filed on the wrong folder in your mind. I wrote an article awhile back on the ego. You can find it here.

When you have a thought or opinion of a situation, it can bring a positive or negative feeling. If its positive, you feel good, your Higher Self is usually going there with you. So this thought is usually serving you at this time. But if you have a thought or opinion and you don’t feel so good about it, your Higher Self isn’t walking that path with you. Time to re-think that belief. What about it is not in your higher good?

But are you paying attention? Our threshold of feeling can be quite low. We let a lot of what we think go by as a ransom thought, automatically having a feeling attached to it and moving on to the next thought. This is how are vibration is set.