Welcome to the World You Created - The Pause that Refreshes

by Dan Doviddio

A friend of mine had lent me a movie, ‘Closer than Close’. Quoting from the movies website: Closer than Close is spiritual cinema at its finest -- a documentary that investigates the spiritual search; the search for the essential questions of human life: is there an eternal part of ourselves? what has lasting meaning? where do we find certainty? Rather than philosophical discussion, it explores the possibility of living a life devoted to a search for answers, and the radical possibility that answers exist, closer than we can imagine, within our selves.

At the time I was having these uneasy ego rumblings that I was ignoring. Watching the movie, I seemed to have picked up ego rumblings from the people in the movie itself. One man says, ‘since five years old, I’ve had this uneasy feeling inside’. I identified with him. I said to myself at that moment ‘my ego’s got to go’.

I had acknowledged recently that my ego’s need for all it’s perceived issues had to be be taken out. Not just dealt with, taken out, mugged in a back alley, serious action, to put my ego in it’s place. So at that moment in the movie, I took inspired action. I decided to cognitively declare to my ego ‘
I give up, I surrender, I let that go’ of any issue that my ego brought up. And it actually worked. Instant relief.

I’ve been working on this for months now before I decided to write about it.

The Pause That Refereshes
The Pause

So what I found was your mind can get instant relief from deciding to reduce the ego’s need to always bringing up issues. Sure a lot of it is just mind/ego combo sifting through contrast. But a lot of time it’s an ongoing program running underneath whatever you happen to be doing. As it surfaces, there are times you just want to silence it.

Insert in Your Mind a New Program
What I did was, I decided to insert a new program in my mind. In my case, this meant sitting down and letting the ego know that I was going to help it be more effective in our everyday life. Notice I don’t threaten the ego. I am making it a partner in helping me. I said, meant and felt the words ‘I give up, I surrender, I let you go’. This part needs to be set with feeling. This is the set point to make the words ‘I give up, I surrender, I let you go’ have real meaning when they are spoken. Program inserted.

As ego generated thoughts came through, I said my new mantra. Instant relief.

I did find that I became more aware of my thoughts when first using ‘The Power Pause’. I used it a lot to dissipate whatever thoughts not wanted or were against certain goals I had set.

When meditating one morning, I realized that one still must demand to feel good. Paying too much attention to the thoughts not wanted, sometimes brought more thoughts after while. So you still need to have a point that you always want to feel good. And this is where most of your work needs to be focused.

Some Tools
Still getting rid of these background running programs are important. If you can sit down and take the time and really discipline yourself Katie Bryon’s ‘The Work’ can be real useful.

Another good tool is in Esther and Jerry Hicks ‘Ask and it is Given’ process #22: Moving up the Emotional Scale. The point of moving up the emotional scale is to change your reality by improving your feelings, not by taking action.

For me, I also use Ho”oponopono. I can’t emphasize enough how this simple program works. It is very effective and works effortlessly.

Saying these four phrases have meaning to your conscious / sub-conscious being.
  • I Love You
  • I’m Sorry
  • Please Forgive Me
  • Thank You

The key is to use these phrases as needed. According to Rev. James Vinson Wingo, DD , it is not good to say the phrases over and over. Like a general anti-biotic, you will not hit the root cause of the issue you need to address.

It is best to find what the true cause is of what you are feeling. If there is an issue that you keep responding to and keep getting the sanme results, it might be good to take some quiet time, maybe during meditation and seeing where this issue comes from. Then ‘pono it (using the four phrases).

The Power Point and Taking Mental Action
I came up with my own process during a run in December. I found when I neutralized the not wanted thought, there is a pause. The pause of neutrality. This is a personal power point. At this moment you can take charge of the thought.

The Power Inquisition: You can ask ‘where did that come from’. I was putting off a project I needed to do. Nothing that bad either. Even when I do start the project, I know I’ll enjoy doing it. I could just feel a little dread. You know the feeling, that procrastination feeling. I did ‘The Pause’. Then I inquired why did I procrastinate. I found an old program from my childhood. My father was big in having us kids do chores before we could go play. I mean a lot of chores, or so it seemed at the time. There was some resentment still built up from that. So I let that go too. Once you realize why you do something, it can be easier to move on.

The Power Point Punch: This is when you’ve done the Power Point and want to take advantage of the pause and turn it around. This is where you pivot from the thought that isn’t wanted and turn it around into what you do want. Say you have a sales call coming up. You’re feeling trepidation and a little unsure of yourself. You insert the Power Pause statement to stop the current program you’re running. The old program is temporarily in a neutral state. Now you pivot, you realize that you were feeling trepidation based on a program running. Now in the neutral mode, you pivot, say to yourself ‘I’m a great salesperson, who wouldn’t want to see me. I’m bringing this buyer something they really want. They may not know it yet, but they will’.

If you’ve done your other work, the work of feeling good (the most important work), you will turn this moment around due to the fact you remember what good feels like. That feeling can be re-generated anytime you ‘choose’.

Why does this all work? Physically speaking, you’re building new neural pathways. As you create a thought, building new neural pathways to a response or feeling is taking charge of yourself. When you create new habits of thinking, the neural pathway gets stronger. To see a great video of how someone cured themselves using their mind.

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As you see, all of the above here is conscious work. I remember watching a travel show on our local public TV station. The program is Globe Trekkers. They were doing a Mexico travel program. They did a small piece on a group of Indians that practiced the Nagual. These Indians call most of the people of the world sleepwalkers. If you want to experience life in all it’s beautiful wonder, You gotta wake up.